Finding God's Winning Spirit

Somebody's Dad

January 22, 2016 | Greg Smith | Devotional

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Father’s Day sneaks up on most dads. We take the new tie, the shirt, the cards signed by the kids, and that special lunch all in stride.  We kind of see it as a paternal re-run of Mother’s Day.

One reason this whole thing probably springs upon us is that for most men there is no real clear father identity.  We lump husband, provider, lawn care specialist and mother- support- person all into one big “father” category.  We somehow see fatherhood as part of the whole job and spend precious little time thinking about just being somebody’s dad.

When our twins were born I was able to take about four months off to be home with these two bundles of joy.  It is interesting that so many years ago I had a greater sense of fatherhood.  I was immersed in this paternal identity.  I even have pictures of me in my “hospital greens” father’s uniform inked with two sets of footprints.  People would always ask, “Are you the father?”  Every day for a while was Father’s Day.

Somehow as time went by my father identity got vague.  Feeding babies became making money, changing diapers became budgeting for clothes and so on – fatherhood by remote control.  Unfortunately, our father identity can slide into a maze of abstract responsibilities that we somehow tell ourselves is what being a father is all about.  We transition from being a father to being a parent, from being a parent to being a teacher and from being a teacher to being a policeman.  For some reason it doesn’t feel the same as those days of baby formula, falling asleep in the rocking chair or pushing the stroller through the mall.

Fatherhood does not stop at age four and children are probably a lot less confused about this than we are.  This confusion is self-induced and stems from our lack of priorities or our overwhelming need to provide.  It is imperative that we not lose our sense of fatherhood.

Plug in the old videos, the ones of the early days, or get out the old picture albums (you know, the ones where you are thirty pounds lighter.)  Most importantly bring out those pictures that always show you proud and smiling.  The message will be evident as you reminisce.  What could be greater than being somebody’s Dad?

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