Finding God's Winning Spirit

"Go Team" - The Key to a Winning Marriage

January 22, 2014 | Greg Smith | Marriage


No matter what anyone says, the key to teamwork is self-sacrifice.   The reason true teamwork is difficult to achieve is we often equate self-sacrifice with giving up our individuality or uniqueness.  This is far from the truth. Becoming part of a team simply means combining our talents with another or others, which increases our chance for success.

Knute Rockne once said, “The secret is to work less as individuals and more as a team. As a coach, I play not my eleven best, but my best eleven.”  It has been said that, “the individual is important to the team unless the individual becomes more important than the team itself.”  Power and success due to shared strengths does not only work in sports, it is the foundation of a strong marriage.

We only occasionally talk about teamwork as a key element in marriage but it is foundational.  Those couples who can combine their unique qualities have an admirable and formidable bond. In marriage, as in life, those who are willing to see themselves as part of a whole will experience not only the joy of self- worth; they will also receive the blessing of being part of something greater.

Unfortunately for us Satan knows more about the importance and power of teamwork than we do. He hates it. The last thing he wants is for us to join hands and combine our faith and talents.  He would love for us to exclude each other, judge one another and turn marriage into a competition of wills.  He loves for us to fight with our spouse to get  what we want and deserve, telling us all along the way that we actually know what is best for us.

Perhaps we see and admire “team-manship” in sports because we have lost what it looks like in our Christian walk and community. Perhaps we have fallen prey to the concept that the individual star is where the winning is. We have become focused on ourselves, our desires, our wants and even on our gifts, leaving our teammates behind. In sports, as in life, there is equal value of the individual and the team — one is never disconnected from the other. 

The Bible uses words like cleave, unite, join and one flesh to describe the process of getting married.  No matter what word you use it means “less me” and “more us”, less “my way” and more “our way”. Teamwork is the single most important element in a good marriage because it requires one to not only see but also respect the strengths (differences) in the other. When the Bible talks about being “equally yoked” it does not mean being the same or one leading the other but rather the combination of strength pulling together.

Through the concept of the universal church we see the support and power that comes from playing as a team. The bottom line is this, what could be more formidable in marriage, in life or in our spiritual walk than two followers of Christ joined together.  As Christian men and women we know that we never cross the finish line alone. That is a winning team!

As always Greg, your words are so inspirational. Blessings to you and yours.
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Today was a good day for this reminder. Thank you, Greg.
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